The nurturing part of motherhood came naturally to me. I hoped it would, as I loved the moments in my childhood playing with dolls, taking care of my two younger sisters and eventually babysitting.
What I didn’t expect was how much more was truly involved in raising a child…and how alone you can feel.
We were living in West Virginia (5 hour from my hometown of Indianapolis) when my oldest son was born. Our families came out for the birth, but after a few days they left, my husband went back to work and I was on my own with this brand new baby and our crazy dog.
The first day alone, I can remember being so relieved when someone stopped over because I had to go to the bathroom & couldn’t figure out what to do with the baby to keep him safe from the dog!
It sounds absolutely ridiculous now, but, at the time, it was a legit concern.
As were the challenges I had trying to adjust 2.5 years later, just when I was starting to feel like I had this motherhood thing down and then another baby boy was thrown into the mix. Our surprise beautiful baby girl that blessed us with 3 kids in 4 years pretty much put me in survival mode.
I had moved back to my hometown and was surrounded by support of family and friends, but still felt alone. I had all these feelings that no one talked about that I didn’t know how to process, not to mention the pure logistics involved in raising a family.
It took me a few years (and a 4th baby) to realize that all these feelings are okay, I am not alone and it is actually possible to thrive, not just survive, in the midst of the craziness of motherhood.
And it all started with a deep sense of self-love.
Knowing that, even though motherhood is a blessing, it can be really hard work.
Remembering that it is not only okay to put yourself first, it is necessary.
Letting go of the guilt, the perfectionism, and the attempt to do it all.
Treating yourself with kindness and compassion, especially when things don’t go as planned.
Trading in comparing yourself to others for authenticity and connection.
Feeling that you deserve to be happy, energized, fulfilled, and loved.
And…finding and using the tools and support needed to get you there!
Even though I am in the health field, I have struggled with prioritizing my wellness and figuring out each new phase of motherhood. I have felt alone, even while surrounded by many people. I have felt overwhelmed and in survival mode. I have felt discouraged and full of self-doubt.
It was during those times, that I really just needed a reminder.
A reminder of love and encouragement. A reminder that everyone has tough days, but there are ways to feel energized, inspired, calm, mindful, happy, fulfilled, healthy, balanced, nourished, or whatever positive feeling you are striving for.
And more importantly…you deserve it!
This is just one of the reasons why we created the Wellesley Wellness Retreat….to provide these reminders, as well as the connection, practical tips, tools and resources needed to get there!
We want you to come to the retreat just as you are and leave feeling relaxed, renewed and inspired!
Come join us on January 23, 2016! Early bird registration until November 15!
Lots of love,